Stupid Thing Men (boys) Do To Mess Up That First Approach!
(A Woman’s opinion and advice Part I)
by Mitsu Balboa
Listen, I'm an attractive woman so, yes, I have been approached by many men. I have heard so many cheesy lines I could probably write a book, but I think that someone has already done that. Instead I am going to be your goddess for the few minutes that it takes you to read this and hopefully with my help you can succeed in at least talking to a woman.
Ok boys, here we go:
First off, it all has to do with you and the way that you feel about yourself. Yes, it's true! You are number one in this game and if you don't have some self-esteem you will never succeed in picking up on a woman, let alone having a relationship with one! Get some balls! Oh wait, you already have them. So use them! What are you waiting for?
I am going to be here for you, to help you out, and, hopefully, help you succeed with at least one woman. I'm sharing with you a woman's point of view on what we are really looking for and what we really expect out of a man.
1. First and foremost, try and try again! Don't sit back and think to yourself, "she's way too pretty, she'll never go for me." Get that thought out of your head right now stupid! How do you know if you don't try? She might think that you are attractive. Have you ever thought of that? She might like your smile. She might be tired of the same ole' asshole gym rat, and might be looking for someone, yes, a little more average. You never know, so why not try?
FACT: Did you know that most beautiful women are hardly ever approached by men? It truly is hard for them to get a date because men, in general, are scared of them. They think because they are so beautiful they aren't good enough for her and will get rejected. It's not true all the time. This is the obstacle that you must overcome if you are to succeed in this game.
2. The way you dress is very important to most girls as well. From your shoes on up buddy! Girls look at shoes, and if you are wearing some ugly ass shoes with your really nice outfit, forget it! She will probably run the other way. Maybe not, but probably. So look at some magazines, GQ, Esquire, Men's Health, etc., and check out what guys are wearing. You don't have to buy the most expensive clothes. Hell the majority of women think that a guy who spends a lot on his clothes is either stupid, gay, insecure, or selfish. Hell man, go to Target, JC Penny's, ya know places that still have a little style, but won't break your wallet! I mean come on, if some girl is looking at the tag on the back of your shirt to see if it's a Tommy Hilfiger shirt, the bitch isn't worth it and is probably a money hungry gold digging bitch to boot! Stay away from those females. They will never be worth your time. Trust me on this one!
3. Now the approach. When you first approach a woman, please don't ever start off by saying these type of things:
"Yo, what's up?"
"Hey, baby you look good!"
"Damn girl your fine", etc., etc.....
Anything that sounds anywhere near to this should be left at home or with your buddies. This is not the type of talk that any decent female wants to hear. Any girl that responds to this type of approach is either retarded, under age, or an easy lay. Don't get me wrong, an easy lay would be good for you right, but that is not the main purpose of this discussion right now. Yes, you might get laid, but she will never respect you after that, she'll think you're childish and stupid, she'll tell her friends that you're an idiot, and lets face it she was probably drunk to begin with!
The trick is being smooth with what you say in your first approach. Here is one example of what I would find very intriguing:
"Hi, how are you?"
Wow, surprised? I'm sure you are. Listen, pretty girls are always hearing the same lines. Here's a trick:
You walk up and act like you're ordering a drink, kind of look over at her, make eye contact (very important), and just say, "Hi, how are you?", look away from her, get your drink, walk away.
Simple right? Well now she knows that you find her interesting because you have noticed her. Females need notification. They need to know that someone is interested in them at all times. So as the night goes on she will see you around and you will not be a threat to her. She has no idea that you want to pursue her, but she does know that you were interested enough to say "Hi". If she is interested in you, she will find a way to walk by you or when she does walks by you she will make eye contact with you. When she does, DO NOT, and I mean do not act like a fool, instead, say something like, "Hey! I know you?" and smile. Nothing else. At least not right now. My belief is, if it's meant to be it will happen. Be patient. Maybe try it on more than one female at a time if one isn't biting. Don't ever waste your time on one when you might have a chance with another. BUT, and I mean BUT, do NOT let any of those women know that you are trying to pick up on either one of them at the same time or they will look at you as a "dog" or "player" and won't waste their time with you.
Now the game is getting a little more difficult......
I'll cover this in my next article.
